Dear Reader,
December often brings sparkling lights, gatherings and gift‑giving, but it can also be a time of immense stress. Many women feel pressure to make the holidays perfect, manage family dynamics and honor memories of loved ones who are no longer here.
I recall one client, who hosted elaborate holiday dinners every year. She spent weeks decorating, cooking and shopping, only to collapse in exhaustion and tears by January. In therapy, she recognized that her desire to create magic came from love but was unsustainable. She simplified traditions, involved family members in preparations and set aside time to remember her late mother with a candle‑lighting ritual. The holidays became more meaningful and less overwhelming.
According to a 2024 American Psychiatric Association poll, 28% of Americans said they were more stressed about the holiday season than the year before. Top stressors included affording gifts (46%), grieving or missing loved ones (47%) and dealing with challenging family dynamics (35%). Young adults aged 18–34 were especially worried about paying for presents. Recognizing these common stressors helps us set realistic expectations and seek support.
Identify what truly matters to you this season – maybe it’s quality time, spiritual reflection or acts of kindness. Let go of obligations that don’t align with your values. Practice saying, ‘That’s enough for today’ and allow yourself to rest. If grief surfaces, create a ritual to honor your loved one – light a candle, share memories or write them a letter.
You deserve peace and joy during the holidays. By simplifying, asking for help and honoring your emotions, you can move through December with greater grace.
With love and compassion,
Melissa
