Many people associate PTSD with war stories. However, trauma can also develop from surviving or witnessing catastrophic accidents, deep loss, and any form of abuse, including childhood neglect, physical and sexual violence, and chronic emotional harm. The impact of these experiences can linger in our bodies and minds. Post‑traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) affects millions and is more common among women.
I have treated many women who survived abuse from partners, family members, peers, and authority figures. Months or even years after the abuse, these women suffered from flashbacks and nightmares, and avoided anything that reminded them of their painful experiences. This caused them to isolate and withdraw from life, further exacerbating their anxiety and fostering a sense of loneliness and shame. They often blamed themselves for being ‘weak’ for being affected by the trauma, or for not being able to prevent the tragedy in the first place. Together we explored their nervous system’s natural response to trauma, practiced grounding techniques, and gradually processed their stories in a supportive space. The women who committed to their treatment gradually reclaimed their sense of identity and safety, and began engaging in life again.
National survey data show that 3.6% of U.S. adults experienced PTSD in the past year, with prevalence much higher in women (5.2%) than men (1.8%). Among adults with PTSD, impairment is significant – 36.6% have serious impairment, 33.1% moderate and 30.2% mild. Understanding these numbers normalizes the experience and encourages compassionate, evidence‑based treatment.
When you feel overwhelmed, practice 5‑4‑3‑2‑1 grounding: identify five things you can see, four you can touch, three you can hear, two you can smell and one you can taste. This sensory exercise anchors you in the present moment and calms your nervous system. Seeking professional support – such as trauma‑focused cognitive behavioral therapy or EMDR – can also be a powerful step toward healing.
Trauma is not your fault and it’s never too late to heal. With understanding, support and gentle practices, recovery is possible.
With love and compassion,
Melissa
